Oops, I Did It Again!

Study finds men wish they were more promiscuous, women not so much.

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A comprehensive study on the “sexual regrets” of men and women was published in the current issue of Archives of Sexual Behavior (now at the top of my subscriptions queue). The results of the survey, which included more than 24,000 people, reveal stark differences in how men and women look back on sex. Namely, hetero men regret not doing it with more people, while hetero women regret having done it with the wrong person. (Also interesting, this pattern held up with the study’s gay, lesbian, and bisexual participants as well.)

From the study:

The top three most common regrets for women are: losing virginity to the wrong partner (24 percent), cheating on a present or past partner (23 percent), and moving too fast sexually (20 percent).

For men, the top three regrets are: being too shy to make a move on a prospective sexual partner (27 percent), not being more sexually adventurous when young (23 percent), and not being more sexually adventurous during their single days (19 percent).

The University of Texas and UCLA researchers conducting the study have suggested evolutionary causality: Men need to sow their oats and women want help during pregnancy, childbirth, and the immediate aftermath. Therefore a man who hasn’t spread himself wide and a woman who can’t choose the correct life-partner would effectively threaten the future of humanity. This also implies that non-reproductive sex is still governed by a subconscious need to have and raise children by traditional means—a revelatory theory in itself.

Also, perhaps we can find another for “regret” if the feeling a man has after not doing it and the one a woman has after she does, are one in the same.

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